Emmanuel Acho

Emmanuel Acho

Uncomfortable Conversations with a Black Man, is a safe place to have the uncomfortable conversations about race that many people have never been able to have. But enough is enough - I want to remove the barriers for why we’ve never had these conversations. I want to provide a free space for curious white people to answer the questions they’ve always had but have been too nervous to ask. Like, “How can I have white privilege if I’m not wealthy?” or “is racial profiling ok if black people tend to commit more crimes” and my personal favorite from a 19-year-old girl from rural Alabama named Amy who asked, “if black people can say the ‘N’ word, why can’t I?” And many, many more.

My Favorite Failure

My Favorite Failure


  • RileyX
    RileyX20 minuta më parë

    !! proximity breeds care and distance breeds fear !!

  • Hannah Helton
    Hannah Helton24 minuta më parë

    Emmanuel was not qualified to lead this discussion, clearly. Why do we as a culture follow people blindly? Just because he’s said some things in the past that sound good and has gentle music put with it.

  • Mo 2k
    Mo 2k3 orë më parë

    I like that the host admitted he was initially prejudiced. Like we are all initially short sighted, what’s important is overlooking our basic, cold instincts and embracing logic and understanding

  • picainches
    picainches4 orë më parë

    i love that theres alot of honesty going on

  • Joe Rogish
    Joe Rogish6 orë më parë

    The amount of entitlement and acting like the issues are all mostly on the cops side from this guy is insane.

  • Ribb Rotgut
    Ribb Rotgut8 orë më parë

    Repulsive weakness

  • Ribb Rotgut
    Ribb Rotgut9 orë më parë

    Pathetic victimology. I don't feel empathy for you. I feel disgust.

  • Gypsy Knight
    Gypsy Knight11 orë më parë

    This is good. Some good questions and good answers. Frustration.....and optimism. But...I don't think it's really reflective of cops vs. Blacks. Petaluma is a city of 1 percent Black Americans. I think it would have been far more interesting, far more insightful, and far more realistic, if this had been an interview with Oakland cops.

  • Jon Casanova
    Jon Casanova11 orë më parë

    I was looking for an insightful perspective on issues such as "reverse racism" and found this. I'm glad I did, however, I always find issue with the definition of racism that requires that it is coming from a position of power. Just my two cents but I feel like anytime you denigrate someone based on their race, use a racial slur, mistreat someone because of the skin they were born with, that is racism. For the definition i sometimes run into(such as here), I would just classify that as systemic racism - which encompasses legislation that unfairly disenfranchises any minority group, policies that result in the school to prison pipeline/prisons for profit(lack of funding and resources in schools etc that results in higher incidences of crime and disproportionate numbers of arrests as well as harsher penalties for similar offenses). The various factors that limit employment opportunities for many minorities (refer back to school stuff, differences in language, names, hairstyles or whatever else may keep them from even being considered because of bias of the interviewer, company leadership or whoever) and the many other ways that people can be put at a disadvantage in life simply because of their race.

  • MK912
    MK91211 orë më parë

    “How can I love my black husband better”??! What?!? That’s YOUR husband.... who tf can tell you how you can love YOUR husband “better”??? What??

  • michael mueller
    michael mueller11 orë më parë

    Couldn’t get through 5 mins of his rant lmao

  • P P
    P P12 orë më parë

    Molly cuddling white people is really ridiculous. I am white and don't mince words when I call out white racists. Americans have no shame when it comes to racial issues.

  • Grant A
    Grant A13 orë më parë

    To me the reason there are [email protected], is that people dont understand that their race is homo sapien and their culture is different, or their ethnicity is different. They need to realize speciation did not have enough time to create different races from existing. Everyone is related to each other, and if you take it back further everything alive and partially alive(viruses, prions, etc) is related to each other. Weve even decoded the genome which only proves this multiple times over. The rasicts are playing the old tribal game of kill the other tribe, and are being blind to the truth.

  • Deqwan Jefferson
    Deqwan Jefferson13 orë më parë

    Oh hell no. Let me simply end this debate. Why cant a white man be just a man? Why cant a black man be just a man? Stop using color. This entire video only adds to the struggle.

  • Zero1872001
    Zero187200113 orë më parë

    Shocked they didnt make up an excuse of the black guy having a weapon, so they could beat him down.

  • Dutch
    Dutch15 orë më parë

    What the fuck is this

  • MK912
    MK91219 orë më parë

    “Cancel culture” does not exist. That’s not a “problem” out here. Who has ACTUALLY been “cancelled” after having been named as someone we are cancelling?? Who has that actually hurt?? I haven’t seen even one person actually be CANCELLED...

  • 스테파니 Stephanie 조셉
    스테파니 Stephanie 조셉19 orë më parë

    _No one:_ _Matthew McConaughey:_ *Heard.* Lol 💖

  • DC Booker
    DC Booker20 orë më parë

    This needs to be 2hrs not 20 min.

    MADMAX21 orë më parë

    It's like this guy's never heard of internal affairs before. You can't just commit a crime as a police officer and get away with it, but you can be involved in a shooting and instantly be villainized by half the country. Look at what happened with the shooting of Ma'Khia Bryant, you got people like Lebron James tweeting the officers photo with "Your Next" without even having all the information of what happened. People are quick to condemn but slow to scrutinize there own bias.

  • Cajun Floridian
    Cajun Floridian21 orë më parë

    I personally believe it takes both sides to make it work between the community and police. The police will never be able to have a true relationship with the community if the culture being taught to kids at home is to hate and not trust the police. That's like trying to fill a bucket with water that has a hole at the bottom.

  • MK912
    MK91221 orë më parë

    “I’m sorry this is currently what you see us as” nah.... what he should have said is “I’m sorry some of us & our actions have caused your reaction to us to be fear rather than trust”.... period.

  • La Morenita
    La Morenita21 orë më parë

    I mean you would think that if slavery was the cause of the separation of husband and wives, that when slavery was over that husbands and wives would be glad to be together. It should’ve caused more desire to remain with a family rather than separation. I’m not sure how I see that slavery back then causes separation of the family today cause I guarantee you that no one today ever thinks “Oh I’m leaving my family because my great great grandparents lived separately”. No one thinks that.

  • boogie7778
    boogie777821 orë më parë

    He's a bit wrong, it did not start with slavery. No black man alive today was alive during slavery, it was the welfare state that created the biggest fracture. Prior to the Civil Rights movement there was LESS single black parenthood than there is today. He states the pure facts about single parenthood and its negative effects on society as a whole.

  • Adam Brooks
    Adam Brooks22 orë më parë

    I want to know how you would respond to Morgan Freeman on 60 Minutes talking about BLM

  • Kiwi Mills
    Kiwi Mills23 orë më parë

    Good episode, think allot of the problem is the control and authority police officers have. Power corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely. They act like cops are above citizens and there is an us vs them mentality for civilians in general. Then you add race on top of that and its doubled down. Do what I say , don't question me, OBEY me. Cops aren't superman or Gods. They sometimes act like they are and maybe need to believe that to put themselves on the line, but it can cause interesting mental issues. To me it is like what I imagine recruits go through in the military to train them that it is OK to take a life and OK to go to war and kill people. Once you are indoctrinated and ok with the fact that its ok because they are the enemy or its ok they aren't the US so its us or them it is hard to going back to being "Normal" Think this is why returning vets have PTSD and so many issues. When cops protect the brotherhood or focus on cops first it really is like a gang or army and no longer to protect and serve. People don't realize that PTSD also affects the Black community as their rights and freedoms have been trampled on for so long and if you look into origins of police or can relate it to slave patrols and Jim Crow laws and the general distrust of Blacks to doctors etc. It explains the mindset, but it is hard to empathize or imagine things that you yourself haven't seen or experienced. That is why it is so easy for people to say oh he shouldn't resist or he shouldn't have talked back, but when they do it it is ok. Sorry know this is getting long but just wanted to say my wife when I first met told me about things she had to go through as a woman and I think of myself as very good at putting myself in others shoes, but until she gave me certain scenarios I never would have even thought about how I never understood fully. We need to first work on holding police accountable for their actions ( Qualified Immunity), then we can work on the others because if they are equal and liable for their actions allot of the bad officers (Bully / Tyrants) won't feel safe and the good officers won't feel forced to protect ( Love it of leave it) and cover up things they know and see that is wrong. Good friend of mine said well they giving me tickets and stuff also so its the same thing, I said yes but you know why they pulled you over and you know how you can act, meanwhile I'm supposed to be Docile , calm, quiet and act submissive in order to not rock the boat. The US was founded on rock the boat and not going quietly into the night so the fact that you can and I can’t speaks volumes. Criminals aren’t scared of cops or going to jail law abiding citizens are, that is a problem!

  • Smith Bros Jakobie
    Smith Bros JakobieDitë më parë

    Acho you’re being a hypocrite. Maybe you and some black people need to spend time with white people or other race more?

    THEODORE SANDERS13 orë më parë

    The video is literally him in a room full of entirely white people.

  • Devan Maneely
    Devan ManeelyDitë më parë

    Seeing this after kaps still being banned but tebows back tells me he’s putting on a show

  • Elizabeth
    ElizabethDitë më parë

    I’m glad I found this channel

  • Maddie R
    Maddie RDitë më parë

    i want to give Story the biggest hug and take her out to lunch 🥺

  • SailorJ
    SailorJDitë më parë

    I wish my mom would watch this video. I tried to have hard conversations about race with her but she said “you were raised by a white family and are white too” ... I’m mixed and have never had someone assume I’m white.

  • helen white
    helen whiteDitë më parë

    thanks for been so brave u all may god continue to bless you all

  • Opinionated Scents
    Opinionated ScentsDitë më parë

    Matthew is everything.

  • Buttonmstr
    ButtonmstrDitë më parë

    I really don't care for the question of, "When was the last time you sat down with a group of black people?" For me, that answer would probably be back when I was around 12 years old, when I lived in a predominately black neighborhood. I genuinely was confused why I kept hearing that black people were a "minority" when they were all I was seeing. Fast forward to now, I don't hang out with groups of black people, but I never hesitated inviting people of color to hangouts. When I first moved to this area, one of my best friends was black because we both enjoyed math and cooking and we had a very similar demeaner. We still occasionally text through Covid even after he moved. I'm not trying to use the, "I'm not racist, I have a black friend" defense. What I'm saying is that we need to stop seeing race as a defining feature and start seeing each other as humans with good and bad qualities just like us. This black man is my friend because he's a cool dude with cool attitudes. I've had lots of black friends through the years for the very same reason. I just wish we could stop having the conversation focus so much on race and phrased more like we are all brothers and sisters of the same family.

    THEODORE SANDERS13 orë më parë

    That is a good idea. However, there are certain subjects where race is clearly pertinent and thus should be addressed.

  • Allagí
    AllagíDitë më parë

    Americans opposed to each other need to have these tough conversations. There is a lot fracturing right now in American society and the only way to fix that is to have real conversations with people you don't agree with. I don't mean shouting matches online. A house divided, (or subdivided) against itself cannot stand. To form a more perfect union we all need to take a step back, and decide to listen to others you disagree with. Have that tough, uncomfortable, conversation. At the end you may agree to disagree, but I bet my bottom dollar you both learned something that day.

  • Riley Wilson
    Riley WilsonDitë më parë

    13:32 I feel like people now think cops lives don’t matter. So yes I feel good when the blue lives matter flag is up. Same with the BLM, Both are good

  • Julissa Chavez
    Julissa ChavezDitë më parë

    I think this topic should include statistics. Also actually raising our children to be good members in our society would be helpful.

    THEODORE SANDERS13 orë më parë

    What do you mean. Would you like to elaborate on?

  • Kameshia Smith
    Kameshia SmithDitë më parë

    Powerful message ❤️

  • Roy R
    Roy RDitë më parë

    As a Mexican, officers of color tend to be meaner. (Mexicans included like they prove something)

  • Jo Lewis
    Jo LewisDitë më parë

    Here's the discomfort, the Black people that get killed or shot, when they're NOT in the mist of a crime, forget George Floyd for a second. Philandro Castil, Therapist and Autistic client ( complied with orders and shot, cop said he didn't know why), A young woman studying to be a Dr. in Texas shot during wellness check, A young man in Minnesota killed, walking back from the store (cops made fun of his death), Sandra Bland stopped w/o explanation, then supposedly hung herself in jail. The father of 6 selling DVDs shot. Breanna Taylor. One guy was getting ID as requested, but was moving too fast and shot in the leg. I could go on on but you get the point.

  • christian shaw
    christian shawDitë më parë

    Queen of the Karens

  • Jake Burgard
    Jake BurgardDitë më parë

    Anyone else sense sexual tension?

  • Chris Zaz
    Chris ZazDitë më parë

    For some reason I wanna buy a Lincoln.

  • Mr. Nobody
    Mr. NobodyDitë më parë

    I think we need an all colored police force across the country. 🤣😂

  • M
    MDitë më parë

    Black children will look to cops for help and not be fearful when the media and major celebrities stop telling them that the police are evil. It’s that simple

    THEODORE SANDERS12 orë më parë

    Can you give an example of a major celebrity calling cops evil that hasn't happened within the last six years?

  • Debbie Baker
    Debbie BakerDitë më parë

    I hear you both. I have so many family and friends over 60 who say things like, "I know an African American couple - nicest people you would ever meet." Like they're surprised. Drives me crazy. And, African American is whispered. There are some of them who are surprised when I correct them but most are offended and exclaim that "I am not a racist!". I have to tread lightly and slowly but I'm making progress. At least when they talk to me.

  • M
    MDitë më parë

    This guy is a literal clown

  • NG Law
    NG LawDitë më parë

    Never forget that (majority of) Black folks have ALWAYS been forgiving and accepting. Its white folks that have struggled/refused to be accepting You love who you love. I dont have to live with the person so I wish you nothing but peace and love.

  • Bessie King
    Bessie KingDitë më parë

    Matthew, my man.

  • Bessie King
    Bessie KingDitë më parë

    Culturalism is also systemic.

  • Bessie King
    Bessie KingDitë më parë

    It's been confirmed that the Nazis learned racism and bigotry from white supremacy in the United States of America. OMG!!

  • Bessie King
    Bessie KingDitë më parë

    I've always, always loved Chelsea Handler.

  • Bessie King
    Bessie KingDitë më parë

    Not defund, not reform but TRANSFORM the police 🚔 make it what its suppose to be, PEACE OFFICERS not militias.

  • John McElroy
    John McElroy2 ditë më parë

    The fracture in the black family did not start with slavery. In fact this fatherless rate in the black community didn't emerge until the late 60's. The fatherless rate can be directly correlated with the welfare state brought about by the racist ideology of the left. The racism of lower expectations is palpable, even in these videos. There is no such thing as black culture, that is a myth. There are innumerable cultures within black people. Same goes for so called white culture. There is no such thing as reverse racism, there is just racism, and it is independent of pigmentation.

  • Yikes Yeep
    Yikes Yeep2 ditë më parë

    13:50 No. Simply no. You are not entitled to anyone’s forgiveness. People have a right to deny forgiveness. Would you ask a victim’s family to forgive a murderer? Forgiveness is earned not owed. You can change , learn from your mistakes and develop yourself as a person. But whether one who is within their right to be upset with you forgives you or not is in the end up to them. Victims of your sexual harassment are not obliged to forgive you because you have changed. Victims of you micro aggressions are not obliged to forgive you either. Let’s also acknowledge that “cancel culture” does nothing to people like you. The average person maybe doxed and have their job put at risk, but celebrities and public figures are basically untouched by “cancel culture”. A few hate comments, a “I’m disappointed in your behavior” and a slap on the wrist is not going to ruin your career. Make no mistake, it is stupid when a group of bored people on Twitter dig up your pre-historic tweet or picture and try to imply that you still are that same person (if you have truly changed). But the opportunity to grow is open to people like you since your platform remains nonetheless.

  • Douglas Marshall
    Douglas Marshall2 ditë më parë

    I'm sorry but but love is love no matter the color

  • Jeannine Helen
    Jeannine Helen2 ditë më parë

    I really like his analogy of biking and trying to pass a person with headphones on to how white people aren't hearing/understanding the problem that people of color are experiencing.

  • Fleisch
    Fleisch2 ditë më parë

    This "uncomfortable conversation" went into a comfortable one after a few seconds, lol

  • brandon day
    brandon day2 ditë më parë

    I liked this conversation. What I got from this conversation is that we need some community outreach and more (and better) communication. That we all are human with fears and anger and emotions and perceptions. I also came to realize that he's right. Good videos go viral because we rarely see good things on TV. And we rarely see good things on TV because the TV is designed to scare us and divide us. So we never get to see the whole story. One suggestion I would make is weekly social training and weekly therapy. I would also suggest the occasional outreach program like maybe they set up something in a parking lot and you can go up to them and ask them stuff, get their advice, get a sense of the "We're here to help" they speak about.

  • Ryan Yurch
    Ryan Yurch2 ditë më parë

    I honestly just wanna know how wearing your hair a certain way is connected to racism. The fact some of y’all really think that when shut people wear braids they’re stealing black culture is astonishing. No they just wanna style their hair a certain way were in the 21st century grow up and take responsibility for your own problems

  • pepe sanchez
    pepe sanchez2 ditë më parë

    Chelsea is awful. The epitome of a racist.

  • Scott Lane
    Scott Lane2 ditë më parë

    I was very happy to hear that some of the officers understood what "defund the police" meant. We need police, I suspect that all societies need police. Perhaps, just perhaps, we need the police to just police and defend their communities. To put their communities first, before their other tribes. Every aspect of policing should be to protect their communities. Even traffic tickets should carry the paradigm of protecting their communities from the dangers that come from having automobile traffic. Perhaps having a specific group of mental health professionals that manage situations for domestic abuse and mental health issues would be the right tool for the job, while still having the police presence to mitigate dangers. Imagine that you call a plumber to repair a leaky pipe and they show up with only a hammer. That would scare you. Now imagine that every plumber that you come in contact with, is only carrying a hammer? Many of our communities are seeing the police as plumbers with hammers, because that is all they see. They see those hammer carrying plumbers being called to fix pipes, electrical issues and other issues along with the jobs that need to drive a nail in. Defund the Police is about putting the right trade into a situation to handle the issue. And yes, it is also about holding the police accountable for their actions. Do our police not also see themselves as holding the populace, accountable for our actions? Anyone who has been given that kind of authority has to be held to a much higher standard. There is no disgrace in someone admitting that perhaps they may not be up to the task. The disgrace is in thinking that your being accountable is beneath you or that you do not need the right training for a very specific job. To my friends and family that are police officers. Hold yourselves and your co officers to standards that you are proud to share and not to standards that you try to hide. If you think you have to hide it, look very carefully. The last of my long and useless rant, treat everyone with "Human Privilege"

  • Vampshroom
    Vampshroom2 ditë më parë

    at 4:00 when the officer said that George Floyd's murderer was terminated and held accountable immediately I was like 😬 yikes. From what I remember immediately was not even a thought, people were protesting outside his house for months and screaming for their voices to be heard for months before they came out and said hed gotten ANY consequences at all. eventually justice was at least partially served but that made me.. question at the very least their idea of immediately.

  • garreswe
    garreswe2 ditë më parë

    I think it's interesting to see that so many US policemen are chubby. It can't be good to have a police force that is so overweight.

  • Scott Lane
    Scott Lane2 ditë më parë

    Thanks!!! When "white allergies" start becoming self evident, it's like a small breach in a dam that begins expanding. To start that breach, at least for me, it took something to hit home as a violation against a personal family member or friend. It should not take a violation of our rights for us to recognize just how endemic racism still is and how it still affects our communities. If you are white, take a friend or one of your children's friends or spouses to Wal-Mart or just into town. Do they change their outward behavior? Do they start acting subservient?, just because society demands it? Go look at houses for sale in a neighborhood. I have never once felt uncomfortable going to look into windows of a vacant house (VACANT is the key word). See how your non white representative acts? See how the neighbors act. When that breach occurs, you will notice just how pervasive it is. How instilled in our lives it is. What to do??? Ask those who were not given privilege at birth. Don't ask an ol white dude who spent their life blinded to their own hypocrisy.

  • Dylan Lunsford
    Dylan Lunsford2 ditë më parë

    I’m all for building up each other and black history month is a good concept so we as a society never forget the horrors of slavery. But I have an additional thought to the question on reverse racism because I think the point kinda got skipped around on. When I think of reverse racism I think of our society today where I know the equity on power is definitely not even yet but blacks have more power now historically than ever and that’s where the concept of racism lies. If a black person thinks less of someone solely based off the color of their skin without getting to know them isn’t that wrong? If we respect each other’s culture and thoughts over the color of each other the possible dialogue we could have are endless. I mean everything with the most respect it’s just hard to get the point across on here! I love the series and what you are trying to do with your videos keep up the good work!!!

  • Machine Gun
    Machine Gun2 ditë më parë

    "Whites have never had it harder because of the color of their skin"? What BS is that Matt, all people of ALL colors were oppressed during the old days and not because of the color of their skin but by the class that they were. It was the Unions and the working people, including Communists, Socialists, and Anarchists that created equality for us all by protesting and fighting in the streets, and it's because of them why we have equality and workers rights at this exact moment. Regardless if you hate the Communists, Socialists, and Anarchists, it's because of them why we have the 5 day work week, and 8-9 hour shifts, and work benefits that we have today.

  • Doug Parker
    Doug Parker2 ditë më parë

    To I say to that ounce of prevention, where are the black fathers being in lives of the youth they help sire

  • The Most High’s Faithful Servant
    The Most High’s Faithful Servant2 ditë më parë

    Get Candace Owens on the show please! Now that would be a REAL uncomfortable conversation!

  • Hot Mess
    Hot Mess2 ditë më parë

    Cops need to show restraint. People need to stop resisting and running.

  • parabartje
    parabartje2 ditë më parë

    So the statistics have never been better? You’re claiming that ever since slavery, black men have been abandoning their family? That’s factually incorrect... it deteriorated last century... so how are you blaming slavery for shit that only started changing around the 1950’s/1960’s? Get out of that victim mentality, cause THAT is what is really holding you back...

  • The Most High’s Faithful Servant
    The Most High’s Faithful Servant2 ditë më parë

    Good stuff but I don’t agree with the oppression stuff. We have come so far in America. Although it wasn’t a fair race Black people have been able to rise as far as to the Presidency. And I feel that liberal laws are what’s keeping many Blacks in the victim mentality...welfare system, handouts. This is the systemic racism part but Blacks relate more with the laws that oppress them because they vote for their oppressor.

  • Devan Maneely
    Devan Maneely2 ditë më parë

    As a biracial person, I feel both parents need to educate themselves on the struggles their child will go through being not 100% one race. It was something completely misunderstood with my family and others and it makes mix kid just feel like outsiders, especially when your parents can’t understand why that’s happening to you

  • jesus christ
    jesus christ2 ditë më parë

    I've received all of of proximity and "care" from YOUR Kind. Now I can spend my time on house maintenance buying new tv, windows, safe, doors. I've never been more loved. Now straight to it. BLM is propaganda. It's that simple and at 7:18 the cops said it. "there will be twice as many eyes", because the media pushes it. It's not mentioned here but many people complain about how you only need 664hours of training to be a cop. (especially the liberals) Well guess what? if you defund the cops next time you're going to get is cops with 364 hours, then 100 hours.

  • tee bee
    tee bee2 ditë më parë

    Stop white washing history and religion. Stop lying!

  • tee bee
    tee bee2 ditë më parë

    "Cautious of white people", YESSSSSS and real

  • tee bee
    tee bee2 ditë më parë

    Color blindness is an excuse to deal with the heart.

  • tee bee
    tee bee2 ditë më parë

    Listen, listen, listen to human beings period. Black and white that is a conversation every day.

  • tee bee
    tee bee2 ditë më parë

    The pathetic racism spirit in this world has gotten me to discuss, with a sense of urgency everyday, expectation of prejudice and racism to my 5 year old grandson. It's sickening but necessary. God is so good to make sure that before we die, mankind has to face the truth within ourselves, before we tell God, "I didn't know"

  • tee bee
    tee bee2 ditë më parë

    Black lives matter campaign devisive or not, "Black Lives" does matter! The point 👉is blacks dying to the degree it is for the past 400 year yes, YES, the campaign, movement, and sense of urgency for the police to protect and serve, again, Black lives matter.