Emmanuel Acho

Emmanuel Acho

Uncomfortable Conversations with a Black Man, is a safe place to have the uncomfortable conversations about race that many people have never been able to have. But enough is enough - I want to remove the barriers for why we’ve never had these conversations. I want to provide a free space for curious white people to answer the questions they’ve always had but have been too nervous to ask. Like, “How can I have white privilege if I’m not wealthy?” or “is racial profiling ok if black people tend to commit more crimes” and my personal favorite from a 19-year-old girl from rural Alabama named Amy who asked, “if black people can say the ‘N’ word, why can’t I?” And many, many more.

My Favorite Failure

My Favorite Failure


  • Moribund Murdoch
    Moribund Murdoch10 orë më parë

    I like to supply golf carts. Is it okay to prefer decentralized power & private charities over centralized power & welfarism? I'm an ex-socialist presently-confused-politically person. I'm a big fan of Fred Hampton for his private charity work (breakfast 4 kiddos/sickle cell charity), but I'm not a fan of centralization anymore along with the socialist whatnot. I like worker co-ops, but I don't like anything kind inbrought coercively. I've always been very culturally left, but my economic views have been changing drastically as of late. Will I be hated for my opinions (I'm a tad pantophobic.. I'm scared of everything lol)?

  • Catherine Avila
    Catherine Avila10 orë më parë

    This man needs a netflix special ASAP!!!

  • Alyceana Jones
    Alyceana Jones11 orë më parë

    I commend the older brother !!! Come thru with educating your peers Kaden !!!

  • Alyceana Jones
    Alyceana Jones11 orë më parë

    I love the name story

  • SoFly2H2D
    SoFly2H2D13 orë më parë

    I think an important question to ask would be "When you're out with another black male friend and he breaks the law and I arrest him, do you see that as (oh well, my friend was being dumb and he broke the law and thats what he gets) or (thats police officers are out to get the black community)? Because if anybody in the black community views it that way they'll see all arrests as attacks on their community and the barrier will never be broken. Just because somebody arrested your friend doesn't mean its attack on you at all.

  • Catherine Avila
    Catherine Avila13 orë më parë

    Powerful interview minus the distracting background music.

  • Maya Papaya
    Maya Papaya14 orë më parë

    This seems more damning of the black guy than the cops…. The way that he views the world and the people in it primarily based on assumptions about their race I think isn’t good. Some people can really surprise you no matter what their appearance is and how they seem on the outside….. no matter your gender race creed profession what you wear the color of your hair the flag you fly …. You might not check all the boxes you’re stereotyped as. But he just outright said he connects better with his own race cus he feels like a foreigner with white people…. PERSONALLY I connect with kind hearted intelligent people and those kind of people come in every race, gender and profession.

  • Linda Decker
    Linda Decker14 orë më parë

    I never understood the idea that a white cop wakes up just to kill a black person. I hear about the "talk" black parents have to have with their children yet they encourage them to become aggressive when dealing with the cops. Im white and have had a horrible experience with a white cop but my teachings from my parents was never argue with a cop tell your story to a Judge who knows the laws. My case was dismissed because the Judge knew the laws and the cop since then has learned the laws. There are those who will say you got lucky cause your white, when a person comes in contact with an ignorant cop your skin color isnt a factor, its the cop playing God and Parent. The way a cop talks to others needs to be changed, i could have gone off the deep end caused myself a lot of problems but as my parents taught me dont fight ignorance by yourself, wait until you have those who can back you up. A cop cant argue with themselves.

  • ELASTIC Aneesh
    ELASTIC Aneesh14 orë më parë

    So the white people have to have to acknowledge that they are the problem!! Are you serious!! Common.

  • Stochastic Differential EQ.
    Stochastic Differential EQ.14 orë më parë

    iranian and white are bad mix

    JMSIII14 orë më parë

    More anti white bullshit. Imagine if a white talked like he does about blacks.

  • Gary Katzenmaier
    Gary Katzenmaier15 orë më parë


  • Shawn Kroll
    Shawn Kroll16 orë më parë

    Very good conversation..but I see some flaws in some logic..like when he said..as a black cop he sees him as black first then a cop...well that thought process needs to change...regardless of race...he is officer first..the black officer follows same protocols as everyone else...if he stops you just cause he is same race doesn't mean you have advantage or maybe he will understand your view...same with white on white...law is law. An criminal background is not "character defamation" i.e. if criminal past show armed robbery, murder, or anything other violent crime...it lets officers know on scene that this person could possibly resist or be dangerous...also it shows that most criminals are repeat offenders...they are not innocent people...this is cycle we need to stop. We need to help people NOT go down criminal path.

    LOVE - LAUGH - LIVEDitë më parë

    This is stupid

  • Steve N
    Steve NDitë më parë

    Black cops kill more black people than white cops and this guy sees them as "one of him" anyway. Dude has a narrative and won't accept reality. Also, how can he see a black cop as a black person before he sees them as a cop but a white cop as a cop first? Because he sees skin color first, that's what it is.

  • Leroy Bruiyning
    Leroy BruiyningDitë më parë

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  • Fola Kotun
    Fola KotunDitë më parë

    Really touched by the conversation. It's time to get to understand each other rather than trying to disagree with each other as some of the comments here have shown. I think Emmanuel did a great job. Before you disagree why not have some uncomfortable conversations of your own and then see how far you are able to go with it.

  • troy beggs
    troy beggs2 ditë më parë

    This is a confusing video and definitely pointed to a black way of thinking. The thing that got me was how it was more of a positive twist to a black man with a white woman but not as accepted the other way around. And I must admit the question of how ca. The white women or man learn to love thier black partner better. That was a racist question in my mind because it should go both ways. No one unless we are just going by stereotypes can know what one person's family has gone thru just based on fhier skin color. I believe both partners regardless of race should strive to see how they can live thier partner like one else. I mean if it's 2 black people or 2 white people 2 Hispanic people or Asian or Indian people or who ever is in the relationship should try to learn about b the other and love them the best they can. To only ask how can the white person love the black person better it showed a massive racist tone to the conversation. But I guess it was supposed to be about and it was a little disappointing from that aspect. Folks love your partner and that should be all.

  • Sylvie M.
    Sylvie M.2 ditë më parë

    Jesus that ideology of being with "the master's daughter" and somehow getting back at the white man through it is SO F'D UP AGAINST WOMEN. We are not some man's property, we don't belong to the men of our race - we are human beings!! F* off with that bs.

  • chris johnson
    chris johnson2 ditë më parë

    This conversation was not unbias. The host was placing blame on the police without placing any blame on the victim. It's going to take both sides to make a change and conversa4tions like this may be well intended but are not productive. Imagine a cop asking a room full of blacks to take responsibility for thier actions.

  • Crypto Maniac94
    Crypto Maniac942 ditë më parë

    Holy crap, there in the training program in the matrix! 😧

  • nate doux
    nate doux2 ditë më parë

    The very first question is the most significant

  • Big Head
    Big Head2 ditë më parë

    What about yellow people? I love people with good heart♥️ .i dont care what is your color.there only are two kinds of people for me ,good people and bad people.♥️

    MEL PRODUCTION FILMS 20202 ditë më parë

    nope im not mixing with humans im sticking to my goddesses

  • Thousandeyes85
    Thousandeyes853 ditë më parë

    You are such a gifted speaker

  • LongArmsGiraffe09
    LongArmsGiraffe093 ditë më parë

    ok ok ok, if I (as someone that leans more conservative) can admit that Obama was at least a decent human being that had our countries best interest at heart (even if I disagree on how he went about it sometimes) can we also admit that either Bush was in the same boat? You may not agree with the policy but at least you're on the same team. Its more than you can say about Trump at least.

  • Joe Donahue
    Joe Donahue3 ditë më parë

    You completely lost my respect when u blamed black fatherless homes on slavery. That’s the most pathetic excuse I’ve ever heard in my life. I grew up in rural America, lots of republicans. Never met a white supremacist or klansman. They don’t even real talk about race. Quit putting all this fear in the kids, you’re lying!

  • Marcella Jenkins
    Marcella Jenkins3 ditë më parë

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  • Evan Spears
    Evan Spears3 ditë më parë

    In 2020, according to the department of justice, there were 9 black people killed by white police officers. That same year there were 48 white police officers killed by black males. WAKE UP PEOPLE. Blue lives matter.

  • Daisy
    Daisy3 ditë më parë

    Not all cops are bad

  • Darling Sunshine
    Darling Sunshine3 ditë më parë

    I am African American and I do not see color, nor do I teach my child to see color. Yes I do hear about stereotypes all the time about every race but still, everyone is different. Love is the true solution for all of this.

  • lady
    lady3 ditë më parë

    So we just gonna ignore the hypercritocy in this whole video🙄

  • davisgreen2099
    davisgreen20993 ditë më parë

    There is many ethnicities..But there is ONE race! HUMAN!!!

  • Sun Blieths
    Sun Blieths3 ditë më parë

    You can't be racist to white ppl, reverse racism does not exist. Communism, Socialism, and Capitalism What do these three all have in common?, they end in "ism", and are systems. Like RACISM. In order to be a capitalist, socialist, or communist it means you have to advocate for those systems. To be a racist it means you advocate for that system The system of racism in countries like america and the uk historically and presently puts down people of color. Race & racism are concepts created by and for the benefit of white ppl to oppress people of color, it elevates them and puts them in positions of power. Yt ppl have used and continue to use these ideas to further oppress and put down ppl of color, and colonize 85% of the world. So when you take into consideration these ideas it is literally impossible flip and weoponize them against white ppl. Racism is more than just race based discrimination It is impossible for racism to exist without hierarchy structures tht place 1 group of ppl in positions above others That's why bs like reverse racism doesn't exist. By saying that you can be racist to white ppl, you're basically assuming the fundamental playing fields are leveled between people of color and white ppl when they aren't. You're literally ignoring the power dynamics of racism requires in the first place.

  • Valkyrie1911
    Valkyrie19113 ditë më parë

    We as a society have become separated, its not fair to throw that all on cops. While social media has allowed us to reach more and more people, it has made our interactions less meaningful. This has simply translated over to LE. Where cops used to "walk their beat" they now patrol in cars. And no, its not really realistic to move back to that sort of policing, but something needs to be put in place to replace the connections that are lost now that its not done.

  • Susan Talarico
    Susan Talarico4 ditë më parë

    Oh my, as an adoptive parent of black/latino young men, I can relate to the remarks this couple references about people "thanking them" for adopting black children. Geez, I adopted because I wanted children. I didn't select them by their race. I always attributed it to their level of discomfort with white parents with black children. Unfortunately, my fears for my boys are higher now that they are young men.

  • MrMelgibstein
    MrMelgibstein4 ditë më parë

    Adopting black children is nice way to redeem yourself from the days of slavery.

  • Wendy Durrant
    Wendy Durrant4 ditë më parë

    Why is the darker the black man he has an eye candy at his side. 😐

  • Flaminio Guerrero
    Flaminio Guerrero4 ditë më parë

    An "uncomfortable" question to a black man: Mr. Emmanuel, you wisely said "you have to acknowledge that there's a problem, so that you can take ownership for the problem", -Do you acknowledge there is an epidemic problem of "fatherless, abortion, gangster culture, black on black crime, etc on the culture that need to be 1. acknowledge and 2. take personal responsibility on the "implicit bias" that causes and drives behaviors that others may not appreciate and because we do not appreciate these we are then unjustly label as "racist"? = Perhaps many of what people of "minorities" (I'm a member of a "minority group myself) perceive and label as "racism" is nothing but a reaction to a cultural behavior that others do not appreciate. I would love to have an honest conversation about ALL the different components of Race and Culture with an honest (and perhaps uncomfortable) view of the Good the Bad and the Ugly of each race and cultures here in this exceptional country which happens to be the best country IN THE WORLD for ANY minority to succeed. Please let me mr. Emmanuel know and I'll respectfully converse with you.

  • Sunni Duran
    Sunni Duran14 orë më parë

    I would love to see that.

  • Gary Carr
    Gary Carr4 ditë më parë

    Emmanuel, if you were angry a black woman married a white guy, you need to work on that.

  • Lynn S
    Lynn S4 ditë më parë

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  • first name last name
    first name last name4 ditë më parë

    yeah gonna get some major hate for this but here goes it: Nope. You can't honestly sit there and tell me slavery is responsible for the fact 64% of black families have 1 parent. I'd say you're somewhat right but given that was 200 years ago I really don't see how slavery ties into fathers leaving kids 200 years on. I feel like it's been going in the opposite direction tbh. Majority of the 1900's, black families typically had 2 parents. I ain't buying that, sorry. Marriage for gay people has only been legal for 6 years yet you don't see over half of them raising a kid on their own after their husband/wife left them. While you literally just said you have had 5 generations to figure the whole marriage/kids things out, yet that isn't enough time?WTF? Oh and culture appropriation? Ight, if white people gotta know the "History" for wearing dreads/or getting lip enjections, then all people of color need to know the history of St.Patricks Day before celebrating. Last time I checked I'm not seeing people of color being held responsible for knowing the history of Saint Patrick, and brining Christianity to Ireland before they all throw on their green and act like that holiday means something to them. See how fucking stupid that sounds! You're not from here? You're just navigating America? If you've ever actually talked to someone from Africa, they will all agree upon the fact they don't even consider African-Americans as true 'black people'. So with that logic, you don't have a home do you. Oh wait! You were born and raised in America and your family has lived here for generations but yeah sure, you still ain't from here? This isn't your home? Stop complaining about everything or looking for a handout and realize that you are just as American as everyone else.

  • james smith
    james smith5 ditë më parë

    Black people have been one of THE MOST racist antisemitic group to exist. Just read Malcom X, Louis Farrakhan, and Alice Waters, not to mention consistent streams of antisemitic invective on twitter and other social media from black sports and entertainment figures. Don't ever say that black people cannot be racist - because they have long been, and they still are now.

  • alexander justrom
    alexander justrom5 ditë më parë

    This bicycling analogy is a really bad and really fucking stupid one. When operating whatever type of machinery whether it be a bike or car you don’t just get to operate that vehicle however you want even if someone is blocking your way and going to slow, if you crash into them that’s your fault, not the other persons regardless if they are paying attention or not. Quit race baiting.

  • Connor Ward
    Connor Ward5 ditë më parë

    I am half mexican but look white. My Daughter is half black but her father left and I married a man from mexico. Any advice on navigating that?

  • Sarah P
    Sarah P5 ditë më parë

    Did Emmanuel really just make his money and then dip out? I am so hungry for more content!

  • campbell bailey
    campbell bailey5 ditë më parë

    Isn't democracy the rule of of the majority? Why then is America bowing down to the insane demands of a crazy minority?

  • campbell bailey
    campbell bailey5 ditë më parë

    I'm sorry but the United States is a dead civilisation.

  • campbell bailey
    campbell bailey5 ditë më parë

    What seems to possibly happening is that the entity that is policing the police are the gangs and criminals.

  • LU G
    LU G5 ditë më parë

    Why are they putting music when he talk?

  • Super Duper Ultra Uber Fun Lucky Time Friends
    Super Duper Ultra Uber Fun Lucky Time Friends5 ditë më parë

    Where the fuck is Petaluma? I swear if I move anywhere in the U.S. that would be it.

  • Sarah P
    Sarah P5 ditë më parë

    Where's the new content?? :'(

  • whaaaaaaat yup
    whaaaaaaat yup5 ditë më parë

    Wow its sad to see how brainwashed these children are to be so fearful, by their own parents and the MsM

  • Flaminio Guerrero
    Flaminio Guerrero5 ditë më parë

    The one thing I would say is that absence to this conversation was personal and cultural responsibility on the "black community" (or any other "minority" community for that matter). If you are truly wanting to have and hones "uncomfortable conversation" around the root issues, do not ignore the cultural epidemic of father absence, abortion and gagster culture that is heavily prevalent on these communities = Take some personal responsibility as well and perhaps you could heal from within first and the world at large would have more sympathy and there would be no-excuse for an office of the law that behaves un a manner that is not respectful of your good citizen behavior (I speak as a member of a "minority" group that has manage do live in this very fashion and have never experience none of that "racism" because I do not give anyone a reason for) P.S.Emmanuel Ancho, I would love to have a chat with you and ask you some questions myself and give you my extensive perspective (We may be able to learn from each other)

  • Flaminio Guerrero
    Flaminio Guerrero4 ditë më parë

    @L eLLe No!, If you were to be honest and wanted to have "Uncomfortable Conversations with a Black Men", you should also have the other side of the conversation = You can't pretend to demand "ACCOUNTABILITY" from other to "DEFLECT" your own (that is not honest and does not breath healing. In order to heal yourself from ANY ill, you MUST first look at yourself and recognize YOUR OWN responsibility on the matter, and then (and only then) you would have the moral standing to criticize the other side (that is truth for anyone anywhere, under any adverse circumstance)

  • L eLLe
    L eLLe5 ditë më parë

    NO. That is a separate conversation that involves a helluva lot more than you suggest. THIS TOPIC is about POLICE ACCOUNTABILITY PERIOD. STOP DEFLECTING

  • Liem Tran
    Liem Tran5 ditë më parë

    Man, it must really kill white men to see black men with white women. They feel so betrayed by it that they disown these women for dating black men. They lose sleep and have nightmares about it. The ego of a white man is his own curse and enemy. What an awful way to live. These men will never be happy.

  • james smith
    james smith5 ditë më parë

    1.) "I was scrolling through instagram just few days ago and I saw a picture that confused me...I was perplexed" - talk about a racist point of view, as if they couldn't just be a happy family! If a white person made such a statement, they would immediately being called racist. 2.) "We went into the adoption agency and they said the greatest need was for black/bi-racial boys to be adopted" - no discussion why that is, and where all the black parents were/are? 3.) "Did 'white guilt' (as is there is such a thing) play a part in you adopting black/bi-racial children?" - immediate response without hesitation an incredulous "NO!". Seems like some has 'black guilt' that the original parents gave up their black kids, and is trying to make white parents feel bad.

  • tu .vJOHNNY WELLSh
    tu .vJOHNNY WELLSh5 ditë më parë

    Brother I am crying listening to this Episode! Very powerful!!!!

  • Ryan
    Ryan5 ditë më parë

    Emmanuel admits going to an affluent high school and still thinks he’s oppressed. Can someone explain that rationale to me?

  • Ryan
    Ryan4 ditë më parë

    @Dennis I’ve watched most of his videos when they were published last year and came back to watch some of them again to self reflect on my own thoughts about them. You come across incredibly arrogant btw and have made a lot of assumptions right out of the gate. But I’ll ask you to clarify anyway, if you don’t mind. How can an oppressed person become financially successful in a society that is supposedly engineered to hold that person back and give their opportunities to someone of a different group so that they remain oppressed and the other group not oppressed? What’s so irrational about that line of thinking?

  • Dennis
    Dennis4 ditë më parë

    Your irrational thinking is, correlating financial success and oppression. And who says Acho is only here speaking for himself. I feel like this the 1st video you watched of him (maybe coz of Matthew McConaughey). So I’d suggest you watch other videos on his channel to get educated.

  • Brett Leisy
    Brett Leisy5 ditë më parë

    "whites have never had it harder cause of the color of their skin"... so most of my life just didn't exist?

  • uncletido99
    uncletido995 ditë më parë

    emmanuel is such a smart man. As a human being i am proud to say hes a part of the billions of humans on this planet. We are a better species because of men like this.

  • Imraan Mahomed
    Imraan Mahomed5 ditë më parë

    Even if you are Jamaican or you are from DRC(CONGO) or Egypt or my home country🇿🇦 South Africa we are still Africans at the end of the day and we are proud speaking from a half Indian and coloured(black) male We use the term coloured in our country I know it’s not nice for Americans but that’s our N word

  • C K
    C K5 ditë më parë

    What does he mean at the end about wh vs wh, bl vs bl, wh vs. bl and him not being able to change wh vs bl? I don't know how to prevent anyone from doing that to anyone. I think I'm not understanding what he's trying to say (ggl deleted comment so i figured i should abbreviate). Could someone help me?

  • Kyle John
    Kyle John5 ditë më parë

    You know these cops are only saying this because their on camera and its just for good P.R. i guarantee you that everyone of them violates peoples rights on a daily basis i.e. asking for I.D. from someone who hasnt committed a crime. And thats just one way

  • ju
    ju5 ditë më parë

    10:55 bro?? they making it seem like black people are some animals that need special care?? we’re all fuckin human Goddamn

  • H. Love
    H. Love6 ditë më parë

    Super important content! I love what you're doing.

  • Justine Buroker
    Justine Buroker6 ditë më parë

    So beautiful

  • Justine Buroker
    Justine Buroker6 ditë më parë

    These conversations!!!

  • Happy Duck
    Happy Duck6 ditë më parë

    Fact: abortion was originally invented to bring black people to extinction. But no one thinks to end abortion during this fight against racism.

  • myndhold
    myndhold6 ditë më parë

    White privilege is never having to consider if your race played a part in a negative situation.

  • Karen Radach
    Karen Radach6 ditë më parë

    Can we talk about how people have taken the name Karen to stereotype a particular demographic and those who are actually named Karen no longer have a voice and certainly aren’t allowed to be upset about anything anymore

  • Vowel Sounds
    Vowel Sounds6 ditë më parë

    Did he really say “black people are dying at the hands of white people”?

  • Vizenzo187
    Vizenzo1876 ditë më parë

    The only thing is that the AmeriKKKan government doesn't have earbuds in, they hear you loud and clear. They just don't give AF!!

  • Anaya Spencer
    Anaya Spencer6 ditë më parë

    I think we should abolish policing and rebuild it to be something else because police were created to lock up and kill black people the foundation it was created on stops the change that policing was suppose to have changed so it needs a restart

  • Anaya Spencer
    Anaya Spencer6 ditë më parë

    I dont want you to be perfect just want you give my people the say protocols you give for white suspects. They never get killed when they are threatening the officers life but a black person isn't threatening the officer and they get killed

  • Juicy J
    Juicy J6 ditë më parë

    I have never felt more comfortable with being uncomfortable

  • Stop hating White men
    Stop hating White men7 ditë më parë

    What a bunch of BC. That obsessive mixing. Psychiatrists where are you?????

  • langdog89
    langdog897 ditë më parë

    This has to be the best thing I've ever watched on youtube

  • Adia Lewis
    Adia Lewis7 ditë më parë

    Emmanuel, I’m just listening to you on Oprah. Black spaces exist because those were safe and free spaces for Afrocentric people in America and the Caribbean. We need to create actual safe spaces where friendships can grow. In Eurocentric churches, Afrocentric people who have endured many generations of racism feel a certain weight. And even here there are degrees of that weight based on life experience. We push through because we need to stand and forge a path for our brothers and sisters to also stand as equals. As a first generation American you may not understand the need for “Black” spaces. The need is real. It is the place to which we retreat to feel safe. Eurocentric people can come into our lives, listen, learn, and create equity for us. Through that process, and as we are given the opportunity to work through our trauma all spaces can become open spaces.

  • Johj Horgandy
    Johj Horgandy7 ditë më parë


  • Kuro Zumi
    Kuro Zumi7 ditë më parë

    90% percent of the black people in all of the united states in the 5 months prior to this video. Damn, dunno why but this sounds disastrous. What happened ? Cuz it can't be because of the death of random dude that was no martin luther king right ? Also you are literally not supposed to be comfortable with the agents of the law. Nobody should, if you do your country has too weak a justice. Hence the terrible justice of the USA