How to Have Uncomfortable Conversations with Your Loved Ones

Having conversations with loved ones is one of the hardest things to do. Many of you have asked, so allow me to give you 3 facts you should start with when having an uncomfortable conversation with your loved ones.
Watch and share, someone could benefit from this. Love y'all!

Komente

  • Ribb Rotgut
    Ribb Rotgut7 orë më parë

    Repulsive weakness

  • Mao's Mango's Political
    Mao's Mango's Political7 ditë më parë

    Missing a lot of info. Further studies found it was violent gang related names on the applications that steered away from interviews.

  • Sarah P
    Sarah PMuaj më parë

    Thank you so much for this one. I had a really horrible argument the other day with my closest relative; let's just say she is the one who taught me never, ever to say that disgusting word. She taught me to see and respect the history and culture of others. She taught me to love everyone. And then this day she was imitating a really popular comedy skit and she said it. I meant to be calm, I meant to do it right. But I was so explosively angry that I stuck my finger in her face and said, "YOU'RE the one who taught me to never say that word. Do you realize what a hypocrite you're being?" (I have a lot of things to learn about communication, too) And we had to walk away from each other for a while, and then we came back to have a long conversation about why she should never say it. Not in a song, not from a comedy sketch, just don't say it. Ever. I showed her this video and a few others and I can tell it's still sinking in for her. She's trying to understand. She wants to learn. It's funny how, as we get older, we sometimes start being the ones teaching our parents things that they have forgotten or never fully learned. Thank you for this video.

  • Slaps Only
    Slaps OnlyMuaj më parë

    Doesn’t really tell how to start a conversation. Just what to say when one is started.

  • Brian Oconnell
    Brian OconnellMuaj më parë

    Gag me with a spoon.

  • Ribb Rotgut

    Ribb Rotgut

    7 orë më parë

    Wokeness is nauseating weakness

  • Ama-Tsula Skiles
    Ama-Tsula SkilesMuaj më parë

    You shouldn't look at average income. It's meaningless. Go by most common yearly income range. Averaging is why people think that humans only lived to be 40 up until 100 years ago.

  • Lemon Lady
    Lemon LadyMuaj më parë

    Ty for these vids, wish you had time to do more! There are huge rifts in my family due to my not letting them get away with racism. One day, my brother said that I would be proud of him for standing up for some immigrants in the ER, as a dr kept overlooking them. HE was so proud of himself, like he'd just done CPR, but I'm thinking, why am I proud that you helped ONE time and you think you're so great? That's just sad. Better than nothing, and even though I haven't fundamentally changed anyone, I've made chinks in their bigoted armor. I did make the mistake to get angry, though, which is not the way to do it. Racism offends me and hurts my heart and I tend to go off a bit, but you have to be a bit politically shrewd about it or you will cause hard feelings. I'm just thankful that my mother made sure I wasn't raised that way. Even so, I still had a lot of work to rid myself of the institutional racism we are raised with. The old sayings and stereotypes are still in my head, so I go to battle daily (because media). Still. It's not easy and it scares me that a lot of people won't do the necessary work or resist the messages. Esp the people who need to the most.

  • tposeinfly
    tposeinfly2 muaj më parë

    Is it bad I went my whole life not seeing color? I’ve had friends of all different cultures and different colors I just saw them as people 🤷‍♀️ but now I’m being told not acknowledging our differences is ignorant (not by them but by mainstream media) so I’m confused 🤦‍♀️

  • Ribb Rotgut

    Ribb Rotgut

    7 orë më parë

    Wokeness is evil. Reject it

  • Maggie's Mama
    Maggie's Mama2 muaj më parë

    Thank you...buying your book❤️

  • Alexa
    Alexa2 muaj më parë

    Love the phrase "black/white brothers and sisters." We are all family. There is no such thing as race, just the human race. 💙

  • dkran 75
    dkran 752 muaj më parë

    1. Acho states there is a wealth gap between blacks and whites and then cites some stats, like the net worth of whites being 10 times greater than blacks. See folks? Acho believes that where there is inequality there is also inequity. He believes in equality of outcome. The only way you can achieve that is if you mess with free will. He’s a Marxist in training. 2. Acho says implicit bias is very real. He proves this to be true every time he opens his mouth. And by the way, Acho, Band-Aid bandages don’t match my skin color either, but you don’t hear me crying like a professional victim. 3. Blacks can experience “Racial Battle Fatigue.” I wonder if Acho thinks people of other skin colors can experience that as well, like when whites are viciously attacked for being born white. Acho: “So, my white brothers and sisters…” That statement says it all. How about saying, “So, my brothers and sisters” instead? Oh yeah, I forgot. His lowest common denominator is based upon skin color, not the individual. Karl Marx applauds you.

  • Jerry Phillips
    Jerry Phillips2 muaj më parë

    I realize we’re talking about overall wealth which may be different but whites don’t have the highest average income, Asians do. There seems to be a cultural difference between Asians and the priority Asian parents place on education which seems to account for their higher income levels. What degree of the income gap is due to cultural differences and what degree is due to racism? BTW, I love the spirit of love you emanate.

  • Sergio Martins
    Sergio Martins2 muaj më parë

    Emmanuel you are truly a class act God bless you bro and thank you for sharing your wisdom sir

  • Ribb Rotgut

    Ribb Rotgut

    7 orë më parë

    He's a privileged victicrat promoting the evil ideology of Wokeness

  • Bastian
    Bastian2 muaj më parë

    Sounds like you're trying to win the victim olympics, rather than have an honest, open conversation.

  • Daniel K.R
    Daniel K.R2 muaj më parë

    In my school a white boy was called Gorilla because he was hairy. At the end of the day we all evolved from primates and they are beautiful creatures. It is OK to look like animals, it happens to white and black people

  • Reshma Thomas
    Reshma Thomas2 muaj më parë

    Yall seem like a cult

  • No other Like my own skin
    No other Like my own skin2 muaj më parë

    What is pride for LGBT+ and color and culture and languages individuals around States of USA like Grants Pass OR in June 2021? Like Asian and Black and Hispanic tooo

  • Keyla Mendez
    Keyla Mendez3 muaj më parë

    I am a Latin American and was born in Vegas and some one heard me specking Spanish and told me to go back to my country it just enrages me ho people can be so ignorantly judge people like that

  • Joyous A.
    Joyous A.3 muaj më parë

    Hi, on a tangentially related note, can others comment on this? I think this is such a cringe worthy video that is wrong in soooo many ways - the use of rap in this case, comes across as extremely tone deaf to the sensitivities of the black community, but was wondering if I'm seeing "racist blindspots"/"cultural insensitivity" where none exists.... twitter.com/khangxvu/status/1358897201586597888?s=21 ... if there's a cornrow controversy - certainly similar arguments can be made regarding cultural appropriation & rap music...? thanks everyone for sharing your thoughts and providing a safe space for appropriate discussions so that we can all get optimally "educated" on race issues. 🙏

  • hawg hawg
    hawg hawg3 muaj më parë

    33 tackles

  • Belmont3338
    Belmont33383 muaj më parë

    The wealth gap is caused by the absence and failures of black fathers who have not been raising their children.

  • Sanisa Babineaux
    Sanisa Babineaux3 muaj më parë

    Wondering if I’ve just latched on to one particular point Emmanuel made and incorrectly forming an idea with it here but I can’t help but wonder how much of black American’s risk of high blood pressure is related to their diet vs racial battle fatigue. Thinking on this because there are still medical professionals out there who believe black people don’t feel as much pain as a white people, so I think it’s safe to say their statistics on what causes higher blood pressure in black American vs white Americans is biased because they didn’t consider all factors 🤔 I’ll have to look into this more

  • Evgeniya Shcherba
    Evgeniya Shcherba3 muaj më parë

    I don't have any bias. Change my mind.

  • Emmanuelacho Chinedum

    Emmanuelacho Chinedum

    4 ditë më parë

    Thank you for your continuous love and support.

  • Don Allen Jr
    Don Allen Jr4 muaj më parë

    This has the feel of an "Onion" parody, but more preachy.

  • Kitty Couture
    Kitty Couture4 muaj më parë

    Great content, great information but Emmanuel, breath! I’m out of breath just listening 😩

  • Katie Simenson
    Katie Simenson4 muaj më parë

    Love you and your videos!!!

  • Brian Wright
    Brian Wright4 muaj më parë

    As awful as it is, this insurrection laid bare the inequities of police response and race. I have been trying since George Floyd's death to get my law enforcement mother to understand the differences in how white and blacks are treated by police. Today she said "I finally understand". Peaceful BLM protestors are met with tear gas, rubber bullets and pepper spray. Thousands arrested. Armed, violent white people are let right on in, allowed to destroy property, threaten lives and beat a cop to death and only one shot fired. Jacob Blake got 7, in the back, for possibly having a knife. I am happy my 2020 uncomfortable conversations finally made some impact. This event also laid bare the fact that cops know how to de-escalate or not escalate in the first place. But when it involves a person of color, that training, or skill goes right out the window. They need training, not on de-escalation, but on how racial bias, racial stereotypes, and cultural perceptions permeate all of us and how this permeation affects their response. They need to be trained to understand why, a black man, may be agitated for a perceived unlawful detaining and how the history of violence against people of color influences the aggravation level at the beginning of the encounter. They need to be trained to listen to the person of inquiry. You know, like they do white people. I could go on but I believe y'all are the choir.

  • scott harm
    scott harm4 muaj më parë

    Emmanuel Acho, the race whisperer!!!! Have a question about racism, he is expert old sage we shall go to for infinite wisdom! Of course being on Oprah's payroll has nothing to do with this, he's just really that brilliant!

  • James Knight
    James Knight4 muaj më parë

    @Emmanuel I need to understand something more as a white man working hard to be "Anti-Racist". I still see comments all over saying "Black Lives Matter" - but isn't that racist comment in itself? That is a series I would love to hear from you as a new segment. Should read, All lives matter! Now work on integration, Love All no matter their color. I am now being intentional where I have been non-racist - allowing water to flow as it does. Now I am changing. I just think we should also address Black Lives Matter with being Anti-Racist.

  • Bastian

    Bastian

    2 muaj më parë

    From my observations, self labeled "anti-racists" ...tend to be some of the most blatant *actual* racists. You are correct that the notion of blm is rather racist. It elevates the importance and focus of *one* race above all others, encourageing violence, hate, division etc... That isn't the way to move past racism.

  • BLUE O.

    BLUE O.

    3 muaj më parë

    Let's say you have three children, your last kid, a son suddenly gets into an accident at home and fractures his wrist. At that point you will be bothered about him, taking him to hospital, his two siblings will have to assist him in doing some things like doing his laundry or feeding him because his hand is fractured. At that point, your son is not lazy or seeking attention, obviously he also wants his hand to heal so everyone can go back to normal. As a father it doesn't mean you suddenly hate your other two children because your attention is on the last kid, you are making sure he gets better and stronger. At that point in your family, your last son's life is what matters most to you. That is the same ideal for BLM, they are, as a minority, the last sons in the family of the human race, they are hurt. And they're calling for help, for assistance, for attention, to help them heal.

  • Scott Spain
    Scott Spain4 muaj më parë

    Was that your book you were highlighting in the video?

  • AlphaFoxAdam
    AlphaFoxAdam4 muaj më parë

    Self-victimization is an illness.

  • Nano Hawk
    Nano Hawk4 muaj më parë

    Hey, I only want to say that i really liked your content, congratulations! I have subscribed to your C h a n n e l 😉 Maybe, You can do the same and we will become "real" ALthe friends

  • Vickie Kennedy
    Vickie Kennedy4 muaj më parë

    Love love love the message you are bringing to us.

  • Natalie
    Natalie4 muaj më parë

    I just stumbled across your ALthe videos today & really appreciate your knowledge! Growing up in a very primarily white small town, I never really had the opportunity to speak with a black person about these things nor was I ever educated on the matter. This really opens my eyes and I learn something new from you in every video. I love what your channel brings and your openness to have these uncomfortable conversations, I love learning from these and can't wait to see what else you create!

  • Daniel K.R

    Daniel K.R

    2 muaj më parë

    Lovely comment Natalie. What have you learned from these videos?

  • Rick Spinosa
    Rick Spinosa4 muaj më parë

    Hi my fellow humans of all shades Just finished reading Uncomfortable Conversation with a Black Man. What a great gift you have given me, I would say I'm a better person for reading this book . With still a ton of room to grow and hopefully help spread the word to open your heart and your eyes to see were all human. Thank you for putting it down on paper and sharing. Much appreciated

  • Chris Smith
    Chris Smith4 muaj më parë

    No one gets to choose their skin color, but your parents do.

  • Shane Francis
    Shane Francis4 muaj më parë

    Great read Emmanuel thank you! I continue to have these conversations with my African American friends from childhood. I am 50 now and it’s crazy 1 step forward but 3 steps back. But we need to keep stepping for our children’s sake.

  • yuhkiloves
    yuhkiloves4 muaj më parë

    What do you think of the “N word” and when people use that as sort of a term of endearment among men and when it’s in music? Also about if you’re not black but you sing along to a song that has the word and you’re out in public?

  • Bastian

    Bastian

    2 muaj më parë

    @Jessie You've been brainwashed. If it's a bad word, then no one should say it. Claiming one race can do it, while another race isn't allowed... Is racism. Don't be racist.

  • Jessie

    Jessie

    4 muaj më parë

    White people, like myself, should never say that word even when signing along. With in the black community some individuals have reclaimed the word and now use it, they can do as they please but again white people should never say it.

  • bromack3
    bromack34 muaj më parë

    Did your book also tell you the percentage of black folk on welfare is kinda high amongst other groups in this country? Being a single parent mommy is not a path to wealth and prosperity. Racial battle fatigue!!! How about years of being taught you're a victim and you are entitled to special benefits. The virus... A lot of black folk in urban areas have public jobs... City transit workers, postal workers, public works and the like. If you're doing something like that, your chances of making contact with the virus will always be greater than the average. If I've ever had any "uncomfortable conversations" with my loved ones, its only to express myself as not being identified as a victim of society. Nope, they don't like it. I'm not a criminal, I'm a veteran and also a college graduate from a major university..... And... BTW, I am a black man.

  • Bastian

    Bastian

    2 muaj më parë

    Well said. 👍

  • M Pratt
    M Pratt4 muaj më parë

    Well said Brother!

  • Lakenisha Cooper
    Lakenisha Cooper4 muaj më parë

    I wanted to love and be loved. Having hate in my heart was destroying me. I heard about a man name Jesus who love people and offer them a new life. I look up in to the sky and ask God what was the way to heaven because many people say different things about the way you get there. Living a life of sin had me blind and confused. I was lead to Jesus, the man who loves people and sacrifice his life so I could have a new life. I'm grateful for a new life in Christ and now I'm able to love others and receive their love. Thank you heavenly father!

  • Emmanuelacho Chinedum

    Emmanuelacho Chinedum

    4 ditë më parë

    Thank you for your continuous love and support!!

  • Jennifer Burns
    Jennifer Burns4 muaj më parë

    Thank you

  • Emmanuelacho Chinedum

    Emmanuelacho Chinedum

    4 ditë më parë

    Thank you for your continuous love and support.

  • jcsrst
    jcsrst4 muaj më parë

    I grew up with a VERY racist father. I always knew he was wrong. Thank God I didn't become racist!

  • Katariina
    Katariina4 muaj më parë

    I'm white. I'd love to hear a conversation / hear your thoughts, Emmanuel Acho, about the the term "race". You refer to whites and blacks as "races" like blacks and whites are somehow different on a most fundamental level - don't you think the concept of race is racist? And what do you think about the terms "racialized people" and "non-racialized people" - could they be better than "black" and "white"? Also, the terms black and white sure are practical in a way (that's why I said I'm white, not that I'm something between pink and beige :D), but they definitely put us in opposing camps. I don't know, maybe I'm getting dangerously close to that colorblind-approach which is not helpful either... In any case, thanks so much for your channel!

  • Nicole M

    Nicole M

    4 muaj më parë

    I found your comment interesting, I think I can understand what you are trying to say. However in my opinion, I believe terms such as "radicalized people" is an umbrella term for addressing multiple races whereas "black" is referring to one specific race. Racial discrimination presently impacts races differently (though they may share similarities), so for example recording statistics you want to differentiate between different demographics. We cannot accumulate accurate/specific data if it's too generalized.

  • lisedietz
    lisedietz4 muaj më parë

    You’re a good man Emmanuel, thank you.

  • Tyson Madding
    Tyson Madding4 muaj më parë

    I was raised around latinos and I always got pissed when people would say they were taking their jobs like those people were going to do the hard labor no pay jobs that latinos were doing...but I did not fully understand the pain they deal with till it happened to me ...I am white but I have dark skin I look Latino...arab.... persian...it's hard to tell sometimes ...I was working at a factory in a racist town that made rules against latinos .....so I got off work at midnight and I was getting pulled over by the cops at least twice a week for small things and they would have their hands on thier guns and be screaming at me every damn time till they took my driver's license and figured out I was white ...so this is the part that I didn't understand ....it really messed with your head when you are getting ready to go home from a long day at work and you don't know if this may be the time the cops use their guns before they look at my license...and at the end of the day I am still white ...I can't imagine what it would be like to always be what they thought I was every damn day wondering if it might be my last

  • Araceli Martinez
    Araceli Martinez4 muaj më parë

    1. Racial Disparity Still Exists 2. Implicit Bias is Real 3. Racism is Still Real

  • Jay Byrd

    Jay Byrd

    4 muaj më parë

    IQ disparity exists! Whiney progressives exist! BLM is a racist organization funded by communists! It's okay to be white and proud! The establishment is trying to steal the presidential election! Public schools are indoctrination camps for socialists! America is a Constitutional Republic, not a democracy!

  • John Brentford
    John Brentford4 muaj më parë

    Stop being criminals and you life will get better you eventually will stop looking over your shoulder all the time.

  • tancho103
    tancho1034 muaj më parë

    Another racist, black supremacist keeping black people down for profit

  • olzt100
    olzt1004 muaj më parë

    Seriously, if you are a card player and above the beginner level and lose 20 hands in a row to the same person you should realize your opponent is likely cheating. The same in the US. For more than 100 years in most towns and cities, the wealthy side was white and the poverty side was minorities and immigrants. Mankind has finally become brave enough to point out and state the likely cheaters.

  • olzt100

    olzt100

    4 muaj më parë

    @Jay Byrd A leech would know a vampire now would they not? A liar would say that evil is good and good is evil would they not? You are the rabbit and you are in the hole. You know you can't explain how you would take the world for yourself and leave your offspring nothing. But you would try to validate the indefensible. Again, you prove my point on human lunacy being so deep in the fantasy world of made up world that you don't even identify with what is real in the universe. Which would you rather have a lifetime of unlimited clean water or fifty million dollars? If the decision is hard for you then that explains how deep you are into the fantasy world because the world you live in is the same as kids worlds of Santa Clause and flying reindeer. Your work value does not show your value. It only satisfies your childish needs of your imagination. That's why Jeff Bezos is divorced. That's why Donald Trump is double divorced. Their work is not the value they bring to the world. People don't let go of things with high value.

  • Jay Byrd

    Jay Byrd

    4 muaj më parë

    @olzt100 and here I am, being more cruel because I couldn't care less what your problems are or for what reason you think that what everyone else has, you have a right to. That is simply not the way of it, nor will it ever be. No more for me thanks. I've went about as far down your little rabbit hole as I dare to. Have fun with your sjw party. Hope to see you in war at some date not too far off. That's the only thing will fix these kinds of issues. Lines are clearly drawn in both of our minds, and literally no common ground. You and those like you are the vampires of the world. A leach. Unwilling to take responsibility for your own happiness or even your day to day needs. The world is definitely going to be better off without so many needy whiney couch philosophers such as yourself

  • olzt100

    olzt100

    4 muaj më parë

    @Jay Byrd The world is cruel place is a lie. Take humans out the equation and we have a planet that is green, clean and thriving. The only cruel creatures on the planet are humans that is because they have more ignorance than other species. Yes, humans fly planes. But they don't know what the combustion engine does to the planet because they are ignorant. Elephants nor tigers have that problem of thinking they did something brilliant while making a world mess. You have to be brave enough to challenge you and the inner you. Just because the people do dumb and evil things does not mean there is a requirement for you to follow and act in kind. That is how God separates the sheep from the goats. I need not say what you want to hear nor do as you like if I know it wrong and will only long term damage and destruction. Maybe you think you popped in the universe just for fun or accident. But guess what? What ever popped you up is still out there and will always be out there and can pop you up again and again and again and what is your say in the matter? E-MC2. What do you think your thoughts are really? What is keeping you alive? What is Happening when you digest your food? E=MC2 tell everyone exactly what they are and where they are. Energy never dies. It just changes form.

  • Jay Byrd

    Jay Byrd

    4 muaj më parë

    @olzt100 The reality "I can't seem to fathom" I do pretty well at. The world is a cruel and fickle place. It's not my fault others have problems nor is it my responsibility to do anything about those problems. People should be able to live without the entire populations issues weighing on every head like we all share the same abilities and family and bank account. People don't owe you anything, no matter what you think or was taught. Get your happiness yourself or you will never ever have it, and it comes from doing the right thing by you and yours day after day after day without end. You're looking for an easy way out on the backs of people better than you. You should see the truth of that and realize you can do better. Or at least you should

  • olzt100

    olzt100

    4 muaj më parë

    @Jay Byrd If you need to cheat, lie and steal you are not a success because you have not won at anything. I never put you in my conversation on the the societal workings but you stepped in it. You tried to deceive people that it's jealousy but who would be jealous of liar, cheat and a thief? Try self guilt. Because if had any sense of right and wrong you would realize that things like redlining was wrong. You would realize that Jim Crow was wrong. And that fact is you have realized that it is wrong and you benefit from such thefts and lies or you would not have responded. No one called your name into this conversation but your conscience. So if you are just a benefactor of wrongdoing then you should also know that you not guilty of the wrongs that others have done. But you should have empathy and wisdom that the horrors of the lies and thefts still continues to today. It's like killing a man making $300,000 a year. If the man has a wife and two kids there is no guarantee the woman will find a man that wealthy and will treat her the same. Her life is changed forever. The two kids will never have their father to teach them what he knows. They will never have him there teach them how to struggle and fight for success in this world. It's been taken away by murder. And all theft and lies are is another form of murder. Biblically, no one was placed on the Earth to be a rich, poor, doctor or a lawyer. This world was meant to be the proving ground for eternal life and the love of God. So in eternal life, one has to work with everyone and get along with everyone otherwise, there is destruction and people trying to defeat their fellow species which would cause eternal misery and not eternal bliss. So taking from others is not a success. It's a primitive mindset that is destroying this planet. You call yourself a success but have you stopped having sex and reproducing? Or have you told all your offspring they need to stop reproducing because eventually, the planet will not be habitable? So why would it be wise for them to not have sex but you can? If you can't pass on your genetic traits forever and your species dies because of your lifestyle how successful are you? The world was not created for you alone and you seem not wise enough to understand that. No this is not a game. It's the reality you can't seem to fathom.

  • Jay Byrd
    Jay Byrd4 muaj më parë

    White privilege is a phrase used by progressive hacks to make you feel shame so more of your hard work and success can be claimed by unworthy and lazy individuals. Words strung together to provoke a prescribed response in their favor. The words "white privilege" literally have no basis in reality. The idea that you have opportunities and money and family who cares about you and kids in good schools makes you evil because "muh white privilige" is such a sad joke. If your family before you worked hard and succeeded, that is nothing to be ashamed about or to belittle. White privilege is a made up slander used by the jealous and the lazy to make those who work hard and provide and succeed feel as if they have done something wrong, when the exact opposite is the case.

  • Tom OB
    Tom OB4 muaj më parë

    Save the blacks! I dont get it. There are so many successful African Americans like yourself and everyone loves to see it. This mentality is horrible. If you are black and American, you can do anything similar dont let anyone tell you different.

  • Bastian

    Bastian

    2 muaj më parë

    @sardonicus76 Race hustling is a lucrative business.

  • sardonicus76

    sardonicus76

    4 muaj më parë

    Careful, now. You’re going to ruin this guy’s grift. Race shaming is one of the easiest and most effective ways to bilk these self-hating types out of their money.

  • James Pendarvis
    James Pendarvis4 muaj më parë

    When is the conversation going to be real and not just about changing the "white" man. Come on Emmanual when are you going to be uncomfortable in these "conversations"

  • Delphine On
    Delphine On4 muaj më parë

    Please comments and subscribe- our podcast Backbone is on Spotify and PocketCasts- open.spotify.com/show/2wJzDbHxnVBpBxqcKKPVut

  • The Mayo
    The Mayo4 muaj më parë

    Is it racist that I want to date black women

  • Ronald Dowdell
    Ronald Dowdell4 muaj më parë

    We all need to have these conversations. Thank you brother.

  • John Russo
    John Russo4 muaj më parë

    How much of this is YOUR own bias? YOUR choice to see racism in almost everything?

  • John Russo
    John Russo4 muaj më parë

    Racism isn't real.

  • John Russo

    John Russo

    4 muaj më parë

    @Lynda La Rose People are dicks, but racism isn't real.

  • Lynda La Rose

    Lynda La Rose

    4 muaj më parë

    Mr. Russo, comments like yours are hurtful to me. When you go to a drug store to find Band Aids, more than like you'll find bandages that match your White skin color, not mine. When you go a to a movie or turn on the TV, you'll see predominantly White actors and actresses playing roles in programs. Most of the people in wealth and power are White. List goes on. Granted, Black folks have made tremendous strides and we should be lauded for that. I, too, don't believe in victimhood either. But there are injustices in this world against people of color that I have a mandate to speak out against. I suggest you walk in another person's shoes before making broad statements like "racism doesn't exist." Be well.

  • elam ucles
    elam ucles4 muaj më parë

    Bro grow up lol you're the problem. you're encouraging the victimhood mindset. This shit is trash. You're making it about white vs black. This is fucking ridiculous.

  • Eric Fitch
    Eric Fitch4 muaj më parë

    dude no your wrong the top 400 peoplle own like the top 1% of all the money in america... and I would say your racist.... you think that other people suffer more then is showing racisms shows this.because you are always welcome to call me I will give you my personal number. but we all suffer and 99% suffer equally and I can prove it

  • ladidadiblondie
    ladidadiblondie4 muaj më parë

    As a white woman married to an African(gorgeously dark) man I can't tell you how many conversations I've had with loved ones about their blind prejudices. I'll never forget the day someone told me my daughter "had the perfect color" as if her daddy, grandma, grandpa, whole other side of the family aren't darker than that. Hurt my heart, my soul. But it's important to not get angry, and to educate and teach people of their ignorance. Although not getting angry - that's the hardest thing for me.

  • Bastian

    Bastian

    2 muaj më parë

    @ladidadiblondie You've let this race baiting nonsense corrupt your thinking. If I say to my wife: "You look perfect" I'm *not* insulting everyone else, or saying anyone with a different look is inferior. If all you do is look for racism everywhere, you'll find it in everything. But it's just not true. And the fact that *this* is your example of racism, tells me you have led a pretty sheltered life. Congratulations.

  • ladidadiblondie

    ladidadiblondie

    4 muaj më parë

    @Jay Byrd it's called a backhanded compliment which really isn't one at all.

  • Jay Byrd

    Jay Byrd

    4 muaj më parë

    @ladidadiblondie no, by thinking and saying what you said makes you insane. You literally have to reject an innocent compliment because your ignorant ass dogma says it's racist to recognize a pretty color if it is on a person. It is literally insane.

  • ladidadiblondie

    ladidadiblondie

    4 muaj më parë

    @Jay Byrd but by saying that you insinuate darker skin wouldn't be as perfect.

  • Jay Byrd

    Jay Byrd

    4 muaj më parë

    A pretty color is just that, a pretty color. It is you who sees racism, they just saw pretty skin. So go tell what you are saying to all the "chocolate" models in the porn industry, they're the ones who actually need to hear it

  • BradLad56
    BradLad564 muaj më parë

    3:56 oh there's a virus of the mind alright, but it's not what you think.

  • BradLad56
    BradLad564 muaj më parë

    3:02 lmao ok I thought you were insane with the plaster crap but this has just sealed it. You're nothing but a race baiting looney toon.

  • BradLad56
    BradLad564 muaj më parë

    2:21 Jesus Christ you're insane. Not to mention obsessed with your skin colour. That's unhealthy. I recommend you get help and fast.

  • KevinCharlesPerkins
    KevinCharlesPerkins4 muaj më parë

    Ah you f-ing cry baby.

  • Wat
    Wat4 muaj më parë

    You're black. You'll never be white. Get over it

  • grunt 0341
    grunt 03414 muaj më parë

    I love the numbers. Numbers are great when they fit a particular side not so great when they fit the other side. White people make so much money compared to black people. But how does that break down when you look at total population of each demographic? I have seen first hand white, black, and Hispanic families who live in the same conditions, same income brackets, etc. This is income versus income. Hell, I was the "minority" in my previous employment and I was given the bulk of the work, passed over for promotion, and I never thought I should play the victim. I never thought it had anything to do with my race. It wasn't until one of management (who just happened to be a black man) pulled me aside and said that my race was why things were going the way they were. I moved on. I found a better job making more money. Racism isn't a one-way street.

  • Scott Chappell
    Scott Chappell4 muaj më parë

    There will always be discrepancies. Look towards the IQ differences. It's genetic. Not racism.

  • Some dude
    Some dude4 muaj më parë

    what a perpetual victim lol

  • chris Takawira
    chris Takawira4 muaj më parë

    THE BEST cure for race & racism is to STOP talking about it.

  • Reshma Thomas
    Reshma Thomas4 muaj më parë

    Systemic Racism does not exist. Change my mind.

  • Reshma Thomas

    Reshma Thomas

    4 muaj më parë

    @ladidadiblondie No actually. You can say that all you want but you have yet to give any proof. Try again.

  • ladidadiblondie

    ladidadiblondie

    4 muaj më parë

    @Reshma Thomas then you know it's systematically racist and designed to fail the poor.

  • Reshma Thomas

    Reshma Thomas

    4 muaj më parë

    @ladidadiblondie well I do live in America

  • ladidadiblondie

    ladidadiblondie

    4 muaj më parë

    Well you must not live in America to say this.

  • Arianne Collman
    Arianne Collman4 muaj më parë

    My trouble is always knowing what to say when they counter with something stupid like "Maybe they should work harder" or "Maybe they should change their names to a white name, and fit in better. Why can't they all talk, dress, and act white?" I get so angry at their unwillingness to see, that I can't even respond, lest I say something truly terrible. I am working on it though.

  • Arianne Collman

    Arianne Collman

    4 muaj më parë

    As for me being a savior? I’m just trying to live in a world where EVERYONE is respected, and compassion and kindness are the norm, not the exception. How is that world going to come into being, unless I stand up to inequality and oppression?

  • Arianne Collman

    Arianne Collman

    4 muaj më parë

    Jay Byrd - It is not hate for white men, but an unwillingness to let racism stand. People like you don’t want to be around it, because you enjoy, and benefit from the status quo, and don’t like being reminded that you didn’t EARN the right to better treatment and better opportunities. And who wants to yell “Jay!” all day, even if they are a hard worker?

  • Jay Byrd

    Jay Byrd

    4 muaj më parë

    OMG yer white, hahahahahahahaha! Not surprised actually. You the savior of black, eh? Get what you get

  • Jay Byrd

    Jay Byrd

    4 muaj më parë

    Culture is the main reason why many whites won't bother to hire black folks. Who wants to yell for Daqwan or Laqueefa all day long, no matter how good a worker they are? Nobody said any of you have to conform to any standing idea of decorum or decency, but you all cry way too damn much when your own ideas are stupid to the rest of us and we don't want anything to do with y'all because of it. And the outpouring of visceral hate for white men over the past decade in the media and individual pundits galore just makes us not want to be around any of you even more. This clown here in the video doesn't help you in any way, he is cashing in on racism. Do yourself a favor and think outside this black box a little and find a better way to identify the good things about you

  • Jade McCormick
    Jade McCormick4 muaj më parë

    Do you have any advice for having the uncomfortable conversation with someone who says they are open minded and want to understand but seem to be fundamentally incapable of seeing their own white privilege? Every time I try to point out the disparities, she refuses to acknowledge they're real but then she continues to say she wants to understand but no one can explain it to her. Is she a lost cause?

  • Jade McCormick

    Jade McCormick

    2 muaj më parë

    Regularly

  • Bastian

    Bastian

    2 muaj më parë

    Ever consider it may be *you* who refuses to understand, or consider another point of view?

  • Kim May
    Kim May4 muaj më parë

    The k you for helping to open my mind to change. I thought I was doing ok until listening to people like you speak and realize in uncomfortable conversations with others how bad it is. Happy holidays and thank you for your continued work and the message. It is powerful.

  • BradLad56

    BradLad56

    4 muaj më parë

    Don't buy what he's selling. It's a load of crap.

  • saucerjess
    saucerjess4 muaj më parë

    💜💜💜

  • Angela Hamlett
    Angela Hamlett4 muaj më parë

    I watched a show on Snap Shot and a white woman was interviewing Bakari Sellers. She asked him if she should have that conversation with her children too. He said yes. I say if you allow your children to make friends with different cultures they will automatically want to march with them. I never had this conversation with my daughter. She has friends around the world. I respect the police too. They are usually very nice to me. Honestly, the meanest police to me have always been Black Woman. Can we talk about mean girls? To me, it's about an energy. That's a whole other conversation. How Black women and Black men treat me.

  • Brendan Day
    Brendan Day4 muaj më parë

    You are plagued with liberal black racism victimhood complex

  • Brendan Day
    Brendan Day4 muaj më parë

    You don’t at all . You don’t tell them they are racist .

  • rhonda barlow
    rhonda barlow4 muaj më parë

    I'm tired of talking -- explaining. Thanks for the video 💕🌱

  • Adrienne Fenner
    Adrienne Fenner4 muaj më parë

    Beautiful!!!

  • sheilah spurr
    sheilah spurr4 muaj më parë

    I so appreciate you Emmanuel. You are our mighty vaccine for our racial virus ❤️

  • The Brightest Rainbow Ever
    The Brightest Rainbow Ever4 muaj më parë

    Happy Holidays to you too! Thank you for this video!

  • Jeremy Danchuk
    Jeremy Danchuk4 muaj më parë

    I am wondering where you got your stats on the median family incomes for race. An average of 171K seems really high and a quick google search had it around 65K. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_ethnic_groups_in_the_United_States_by_household_income Other than that I have been really enjoying these conversations.

  • Jeff Miller

    Jeff Miller

    4 muaj më parë

    The mean and median income may be different. Unlike the median, the mean of a set of numbers can be highly influenced by outliers (unusually high or low numbers not typical of the set). Using medians is therefore recommended.

  • Joseph Moss

    Joseph Moss

    4 muaj më parë

    I feel the same. I really do like the conversations and content that come from Emmanuel. However, the numbers are off. If we really want to figure all this out, the truth needs to be out there. The good, the bad and the ugly. It can’t just be the information that just makes one side of argument appear to be the only truth and nothing but the truth. The gap is there and needs to be addressed. No need to make it appear wider or narrower. We need to know exactly what it is for all those suffering from poverty and help to give opportunities to become wealthy through knowledge and hard work. Please let’s keep it real or the divide is going to widen, whether we like it or not.

  • Rider4Z - Otaku Lounge Productions
    Rider4Z - Otaku Lounge Productions4 muaj më parë

    I got your book for Christmas. Started reading last night 👍 I'm not much of a reader but you're keeping me engaged so good job.

  • Tracy Chavez
    Tracy Chavez4 muaj më parë

    Bless you. Stay safe. Thanks for reaching out.

  • designermom3boys
    designermom3boys4 muaj më parë

    My parents are in their 70's now. When I was a kid, my dad would say the "N-word" all the time. He grew up in a small town, all white people. He didn't think anything of it. When I was in the 3rd grade, my teacher was black. My dad probably didn't know or care. But she was the best teacher I ever had. It was at that age that I started to disagree with my dad. I wasn't vocal enough though. I was so young. I taught my younger sister that Dad is not right in saying those words. She picked up on it and even advanced on what I believed. As a mother, I made sure that racism would not happen with my children. My husband was the same. My boys have had all races of friends. It might have bothered my dad a little in the beginning, but I didn't care. I taught my kids to like who they like. We didn't even realize what we were doing until my son came home from preschool one day and said something about his "brown" friend. He didn't know there was any difference except for the color in their skin. I'm telling you this because I truely believe that racism is taught or learned at an early age, but it can be corrected. My dad has even changed his tune. He's become more accepting and less ignorant. He knows how his daughters and grandchildren feel about acceptance, so I feel like it's never too late to have those conversations. Thank you Emmanual for spreading your message. It is so important.

  • Elysia

    Elysia

    4 muaj më parë

    My nephew also calls black people brown and he calls himself beige (he is part Black and part Chinese). He doesn't understand the term white at all

  • Humble African

    Humble African

    4 muaj më parë

    Thanks for sharing your story and you are doing a great job with the kids

  • Crystal

    Crystal

    4 muaj më parë

    Racism is most definitely taught. Keep up the excellent work!

  • ColdBloodRogue
    ColdBloodRogue4 muaj më parë

    These videos have helped me step on the path of doing right, I know I have a long way to go. I realized that I may not have been racist but I've never done anything to stop racism, I've seen it and just walked away and wasn't part of it but at the same time I wasn't part of fixing it. That is one of the big take aways I've learned from this. When I see it now I confront it and challenge it, am I going to change peoples opinions? Maybe not, maybe I will make 1 person think about and challenge their beliefs I hope I can anyway I hope I can continue to learn and be a voice of change. I have 2 kids and I want them to grow up and be a voice for change. Challenge each other.

  • Shannon Lavery
    Shannon Lavery4 muaj më parë

    This is all very relevant, but it doesn’t help me figure out how to start the conversation, especially with racist family members who love to argue and always have a ‘counterpoint’ that is logical to them. It’s so frustrating.

  • Joseph Moss

    Joseph Moss

    4 muaj më parë

    I’m curious? What makes your family members “racist?” Is it because they disagree with your points and ideas or do they really find themselves superior to others or have deep hate in their heart because of the color of ones skin?

  • Avvaa Bebalavita
    Avvaa Bebalavita4 muaj më parë

    Thank you, an AMAZING teacher. 4ever grateful

  • Margaret McKay
    Margaret McKay4 muaj më parë

    So very grateful for you and your willingness to guide white folks like me without judgment, without having to rely on the black folks we love

  • Darell
    Darell4 muaj më parë

    Thank You

  • John Dearie Sr.
    John Dearie Sr.4 muaj më parë

    Excellent! Very well said, Emmanuel. Continued blessings in a much better New Year.

  • Atira Roberson
    Atira Roberson4 muaj më parë

    What is the book u are quoting from?....would love to read it.

  • You Matter
    You Matter4 muaj më parë

    This was not helpful to have these conversations with loved ones. You stated what we know not how to have to conversation

  • Anahid Kassabian
    Anahid Kassabian4 muaj më parë

    What you do is amazing. And this video is a crucial tool to help lots of people who want to do the hard work of having Uncomfortable Conversations. Thank you for what you do.

  • Emmanuelacho Chinedum

    Emmanuelacho Chinedum

    4 ditë më parë

    Thank you for your continuous love and support.

  • helen mukale
    helen mukale4 muaj më parë

    Thank you for this info

  • Sultan SOC 20
    Sultan SOC 204 muaj më parë

    Indonesia

  • ValenWolf
    ValenWolf4 muaj më parë

    Fantastic message! Thanks Emmanuel. ps: I like when you highlight what you're teaching. ☑

  • Hope Springs
    Hope Springs4 muaj më parë

    I absolutely love this platform Emmanuel. You are incredibly generous with this advice...I believe it’s incumbent upon me to have these hard conversations. We all have bias...but I must be vigilant ensuring what I was taught as a younger woman does not infect my mind as a middle aged woman. Be blessed y’all love from Canada

  • Hope Springs

    Hope Springs

    4 muaj më parë

    @R well you would think that, obviously given your inability to decipher the meaning. What’s truly sad is you coming on here to troll somebody who has put a very positive comment on a meaningful post. But because you are either a white supremacist or maybe a Trump supporter likely both. Maybe you are an unhappy Fanboy, you don’t understand what it is when somebody admires somebody else… Likely because you’ve not probably been admired before. Which you could get to work on IF you stop being silly and getting distracted on social media.

  • Hope Springs

    Hope Springs

    4 muaj më parë

    @yesindd What makes you think I don’t already? Smdh...another troll. Shoo shoo. You sound like you are about 12 from peep school where that was suppose to shame someone.

  • yesindd

    yesindd

    4 muaj më parë

    Hmm. I think somebody has a crush? I think you crave a bit of black ?

  • Hope Springs

    Hope Springs

    4 muaj më parë

    @R Of course you equate Generous with money. You, obviously being a troll, have no concept or understanding of nuance. Do you need me to Explain that term to you as well. It’s quite obvious the Public school system in America is woefully lacking...I am prepared to educate idiots such as yourself that seem unlikely to understand big words.

  • Xtreembob
    Xtreembob4 muaj më parë

    Thank you Emmanuel for your huge contribution in educating us 🙏🏼

Faqja Tjeter